Adoption Blog

Where and how do I start if I really want to adopt a baby?

admin — Thu, 12 Aug 2010 17:23:09 +0000

If you have decided that you want to adopt, you need to figure out whether you want to adopt an infant or an older child. You also need to decide on where you would like to adopt the baby from.

The first thing you will want to do after making the decision to adopt is to educate yourself about adoption. Read books on how to adopt and search the government adoption gateways.

Requirements for adoptive parents vary depending on the type of adoption and agency involved. In the United States, because there are few infants available, agency criteria for prospective adoptive parents are often more restrictive for infant adoptions than for adoptions of older children.

Many adoption agencies even set age limit for the adoptive parents. In other words, you can’t be too old to adopt infants. In general, it is easier to adopt older children, whether in the US or abroad.

Source: The Department of Health and Human Services

Your adopted new baby is finally home, what do you do next?

admin — Sat, 07 Aug 2010 00:34:02 +0000

After months of paperwork, traveling, preparation and anxiety, Now the baby is here. Your life is beginning to settle down. What can you expect next? You may find your thoughts moving into the future. Many adopted parents ask themselves these questions. “When shall I tell my child that s/he is adopted? How will s/he feel about it?”

Whether children are adopted as infants or when they are older, whether they are healthy or have physical or psychological problems, their adoption is bound to influence their development. You need to understand how and why.

We will show you the developmental stages of children and what can be expected in each stage is important to all new parents in the blogs continuously.

Source: Child Welfare Information Gateway.

Who can you adopt?

admin — Thu, 05 Aug 2010 03:35:15 +0000

If you’re thinking about international adoption. One thing to be aware is that adoption laws vary among countries. In order for a child to be adopted by a foreigner, a child must qualify for adoption under the laws of his or her country of origin.

Another important thing is that the adopted child must also be eligible to immigrate to the US under the U.S. Immigration and Nationality Ac in order to you to bring him or her into the US and live with you.

What is Federal Title IV-E Adoption Assistance

admin — Sat, 26 Jun 2010 02:50:07 +0000

Parents can receive payments from the the Federal government under the Federal Title IV-E adoption assistance program. To qualify, the eligible child with special needs can take the form of either one-time (nonrecurring) adoption assistance or ongoing (recurring) adoption assistance. These funds are paid through the State agency or through another public or nonprofit private agency and are available for children being adopted from foster care.

There are 2 kinds of assistance under this program:

Nonrecurring Adoption Assistance. The parents will be paid or reimbursed for one-time reasonable and necessary expenses directly related to the legal adoption of a child with special needs that have not been reimbursed from other sources or funds. These reimbursable expenses may include the home study fees, attorney fees, replacement of the birth certificate, and travel for visits to the child (including mileage, lodging, and meals). The Federal maximum for this type of assistance is $2,000 for each adoptive placement. However, Some expenses in excess of this amount may be tax deductible.

The 2nd is the Recurring Adoption Assistance. It provides funds that may be used for any identifiable need of the child. These usually take the form of monthly payments to the parents of eligible children. The maximum payment amount may not exceed the amount that would have been paid for maintenance if the child had remained in a foster home in that State. Payments can continue until the child reaches age 18 (or until age 21 where the State determines that the child has a physical, mental, or emotional disability), and these payments continue even if the family moves to another State. While adoption assistance is not taxable, portions could be taxed if the family cannot prove that the amount spent on the child’s support was more than the amount of assistance received. Families are advised to consult a tax professional.

Source: Child Welfare Information Gateway

Adoption by step-parents is one of the most common forms of adoption in the United States

admin — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 19:19:30 +0000

Adoption by step-parents is one of the most common forms of adoption in the United States although it gets far less attention than adoption from outside the household.

If your family is preparing for a step-parent adoption, be prepared to invest time and money in the process. You will need a lawyer, and your county or state of residence may require home visits and social worker interviews as well. Be sure to save enough to cover all the fees involved in the process.

When the adoption takes place, the child will be issued a new birth certificate with the birth parent and adoptive parents’ names. You may want to change the child’s surname during this process; if the child is old enough to understand, it can be helpful to involve him or her in the conversation as part of the process of acknowledging the change in the family. If the child is too young to remember, it’s best to start introducing the information about the adoption naturally.

Little children love hearing stories of their birth and early months, and if your child grows up having this information about his past discussed in a matter-of-fact fashion, it will not come as a shock later.

Surrogacy Versus Adoption – The Pros and Cons

admin — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 02:52:58 +0000

Article by Ashley Kate

Couples who are unable to have their own children either through fertility problems or because they are a gay couple will now find that they have more options. As in they can either, choose adoption or surrogacy.

The choice will however, be very personal. Does the couple feel the need to be genetically related to their child? There is gestational surrogacy now as well as traditional surrogacy. In gestational surrogacy, if the mother is still able to reproduce her own eggs but cannot, for whatever reason carry the child either at all or to full term then the egg can be taken from the intended mother, fertilised with the intended fathers sperm and then placed into the surrogate mothers uterus to be carried by the surrogate mother for the next nine months. As with traditional surrogacy, where a sperm donor is needed for the surrogate mother to be made pregnant and she then carries the baby for the nest nine months.

There are a lot of anti-gay and lesbian adoption laws in foreign countries and still, even in so called enlightened countries, there are still people with strong feelings against such issues as gay and lesbian adoption. Due to this, the majority of gay and lesbian couples have already taken the surrogate mother route and have been building their families in just such a way for a long time.

Also, a large amount of foreign countries are now shutting their doors to prospective adoptive parents. Guatemala closed its doors to international adoption in 2007, Vietnam in 2008. Also, staying in these countries while sorting out all of the legal requirements involved in adoption can be very arduous and somewhat costly. There are also quite a few uncertainties involved in domestic adoption, this is why so many people now go for international adoption, but as more and more countries make it either impossible or extremely difficult, this option is now not so easy.

The large majority of people will not be able to afford the high cost of American surrogacy. It can very often come in at $100,000 or more. This is more often than not through an agency, but as it can be a very complex process it is not advisable to try to cut costs by going it alone. An agency will help you in so many different ways.

Because of the high cost of domestic surrogacy, there are many couples who are now looking at International surrogacy. India has been offering this service to foreign intended parents for a long time but at the moment, due to the unrest in India and the recent bombings the majority of international parents to be have started to look elsewhere. The Ukraine does offer this service also to foreigners who are looking for surrogate mothers outside of their own country. Also, in the Ukraine it is illegal for the surrogate mother to change her mind at the birth and keep the baby. They also have some very good agencies that will help the intended parents through any problems they might have. Also, Russia offers this service to foreigners and Guatemala. Guatemala may seem to be the best country to go for if you are American, as you can get quick flights, cheaply and more often than flying to Europe or Asia. Also, Guatemalan agencies have some very forward thinking medical clinics and state of the art care for all concerned.

So, the options are quite straightforward. You just need to sit down and work out what suits your requirements best.

Ashley Kate is the publisher of Surrogate Motherhood website. The site offers information on becoming a surrogate mother.

Article Source: EzineArticles.com

The Basics of Infant Adoption

admin — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 02:51:19 +0000

Article by Francia Delic

Infant adoption, though perpetually controversial, is a practice that has endured through the ages, dating way back into the time of the Roman Empire, where adopting young men in order to serve as heirs to dynasties was not an uncommon practice. This carried well into the Middle Ages, also as a means to produce heirs for a certain bloodline, and well into the Civil War and immigration eras, where it was utilized in order to complete (and sometimes, create) families torn by all sorts of misfortune. Today, even though the procedures may be different and a little more legally founded, the principle remains the same: to care for a child that has either lost his parents or does not have parents available, in order that he may still grow up with a family, considered to be the most basic unit of a human community.

There are many reasons nowadays that back up the idea of adoption. Intra-family adoptions are allowed when one or both parents of the child have died, resulting in a relation of either parent stepping in to be a stepmother or stepfather for the child, in order to re-create a family for the child. Many other reasons for intra-family adoptions exist: wanting to stop the spread of a hereditary disease, avoidance of contributing to overpopulation, complications with pregnancy and childbirth and the like are just a few of them. In fact, intra-family adoptions, believe it or not, happen way more often than adoptions between unrelated families, though the latter are the more publicized ones. Similar reasons, nevertheless, also account for unrelated adoptions.

Adoptions come in two forms: open and closed. In an open adoption, information between adoptive and biological parents is freely communicated, allowing the individual involved in the infant adoption access to information regarding his adoption, which includes unaltered birth certificates and adoption records. Any binding agreements made between the adoptive and biological parents of the child are also kept in the open, though with limited access to avoid abuse. Closed adoptions are a different story altogether. In a closed adoption, the records of the adoption and other similar materials are kept confidential, usually by a hired lawyer. This means that information linking the adopted child to his biological parents, people related biologically to the child, and other such information regarding the adoptee’s biological identity are withheld and kept a secret.

Also bear in mind that different countries have different sets of laws and other regulations regarding the practice of adoption. It is a good idea to do some research first, once you have considered the consequences of infant adoption Once you have done these, though, and you have decided that you want to go on with it, then, by all means, do. The family you create (or re-create) will be healthy not only for the child’s sake, but for yours as well.

If you want to further explore the basics of infant adoption and adoptions in general, do not hesitate to visit http://www.adoptionbuddy.com

Article Source: EzineArticles.com

Adoption – Where to Start

admin — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 21:02:57 +0000

By Michael Russell

You are smart enough to know getting an education about adoption is your best first step. Bill Cosby once said “Once a parent, always a parent” and nothing could be more true. Adoption, like giving birth to a biological child, is a lifetime commitment, but you know that.

The reasons for choosing adoption are as many as the number of people wanting to adopt. Some people have always had an envy for adopted people all of their lives. There seems to be something special about people choosing who is going to be their child. There is also something special about a child who has been chosen. Surely it is an amazing concept, providing love for and committing to a deserving child who otherwise wouldn’t have that type of love and commitment.

Although individuals or couples have decided to adopt, it doesn’t mean they understand all that is involved both prior to adoption – and for the remainder of their lives. Is there ever going to be a time when the adoptive parent has issues with not being the biological parent? How do the parents deal with the child who may develop concerns about being adopted? How does the adoptive parent bring up the subject with the child and when? If and when the child wants to know about their life before the adoption, how does the parent handle that? Where do you go to get that kind of information? What does the parent do if that information is not pleasant? Many children up for adoption do come from troubled beginnings. If the child is from a birth parent of a different culture, how does the adoptive parent help the child maintain a connection with their heritage when perhaps the adoptive parent is completely foreign to that culture? What all is involved and where does the adoptive parent go for help cultivating familiarity with an unknown culture? The point is, there can be much more to being an adoptive parent than just good parenting skills. Many resources are available online, but each locale will have different organizations available. Doing your homework about much more than just the legal process, prior to getting involved, is essential.

You need to know before starting the process legally that there will be a transition period once the adoption is complete. The adoptive parent will need to learn the child’s daily routine up to the point of adoption and make any lifestyle changes gradually. The child may bring emotional issues, due to programming in whatever institutional environment they have been living in. Learning may be problematic. Developmental issues may come up. For the child to trust the family unit, or even understand it, may take some time. All of the family members have to make a commitment to the new addition. The family will almost have to learn to be a family all over again, because the dynamics have changed. Will the rest of the family be alright with the attention paid to the new human in their lives?

So continue with your pre-adoption education. Get out your pad of paper and a pen. Start writing down the questions you need answers to. Get the entire family involved. Maybe you will want to start with the Internet. You know there is more information on the adoption process than you can ever digest. Now you know something more important – how to find the questions you need to ask and have answered, before you commit. Yes, the Internet has lots of sites for just that purpose too.

Good luck on your difficult and praiseworthy journey.

Michael Russell

Your Independent guide to Adoptions

Article Source: EzineArticles.com

International Adoption – The Plight of Kyrgyzstan

admin — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 21:00:05 +0000

By Tim Souslin

Kyrgyzstan, once a major participant of the international adoption field, is now mentioned with nothing but contempt and spurn. The story of the 65 children awaiting their families has made it to the front pages of adoption blogs, became a heated topic of discussion within many chatrooms, reached several written publications, and is now a major concern for the US Department of State, Office of Children’s Issues. There is, however, a great hope that the current situation will be resolved speedily and efficiently, and that these, and many other children, will soon be with their forever families.

Going back to the moment when China released its new adoption regulations and provisions, effectively making their adoption process cumbersome and unreliable at best, Kyrgyzstan, along with other Asian countries, stepped up to fill the void created by China’s decision. A neighboring country, Kyrgyzstan, both geographically and ethnically closer to China than Russia, another major partaker in the field of international adoption, appealed to the american parents with its transparent and straight forward process, reasonable associated fees, and a general reliability of the program. For some time Kyrgyzstan was a viable alternative, and soon became a primary program that parents asked about and considered, many naming Kyrgyzstan as the only option considered. Things, however, rapidly declined at the end of 2008.

Kyrgyzstan met 2009 with several changes to their regulatory bodies, initiating some worries and raising concerns with both prospective adoptive parents and international adoption service providers alike. Prospective adoptive parents needed to know that their adoption process would not be interrupted, that their children will be coming home in time, that their families will be once and forever united and can finally be home together. Adoption service providers shared these concerns with their families, but were also apprehensive about the future of this adoption program and their ability to continually offer this program now and in the future. However, neither were prepared for the upcoming developments.

Without officially instating a moratorium on international adoption, Kyrgyzstan initiated a comprehensive review of its adoption laws, provisions and regulations. While the final goal is to provide better services to its citizens, and to foreign nationals alike, it turned out to be a lengthier process than was originally anticipated. There were several governmental meetings held over the course of the past few months, some solely for the representatives of the authoritative bodies of the Republic of Kyrgyzstan, and some involving representatives of foreign organizations, including UNICEF, directed both at finalizing and accepting proposed changes to the adoption regulations and getting the process back on track. Kyrgyzstan officials expressed their support for the intercountry adoption process, however insist, that everything must follow international conventions and the process must be in the best interest of children. In a meeting with several members of Kyrgyz Parliament UNICEF representatives urged everyone to consider Hague Convention on Intercountry Adoptions when implementing new regulations, and United States, having recently ratified the Convention, has expressed its understanding of certain aspects that Kyrgyzstan is facing to become compliant with the convention requirements.

Situation in Kyrgyzstan is continually monitored by the Department of State and adoption service providers’ representatives. The upcoming meeting of the Kyrgyz officials should be the next stepping stone on the road to bring these children home to their families, and to reopen this, once a very dependable program, for the future prospective adoptive families.

Established in 1996 World Links International Adoption Agency is a premiere, non-profit, licensed, Hague Accredited adoption service provider with adoption programs from Eastern Europe, Asia, and Latin America.

Please visit http://www.wliaa.org for more information.

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Adoption Is An Option

megdilts — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 20:12:09 +0000

If a couple has been trying for sometime to conceive and have done everything they could to do so, then maybe they could consider adoption.

There are so many babies and children in the world looking for a mother and father. Couples can choose to adopt a child in their home country or one from abroad. There have been those couples who have adopted children from several different countries. The highest profile adoptions recently have been Angelina Jolie and Meg Ryan. Angelina adopted a little boy, Maddox, from Cambodia and a little girl, Zahara, from Ethopia. Meg Ryan adopted a little girl from China.

Adoption is not an easy process. There are many requirements that the adoptive couple will have to meet before they are allowed to move forward with the adoption. Here is a list showing some of the criteria:

* * Marital Status
* * Length of Marriage
* * Age of Adoptive Parents
* * Health and Disabilities Issues of Adoptive Parents
* * Use of Drugs, Alcohol and Tobacco
* * Fertility Status
* * Other Children in the Family
* * Financial Status
* * Employment Stability

The cost of adoption depends on how they choose to proceed. If they use the US foster care system, there is little or almost no cost to the adoptive parents. In some states, subsidies are offered. Stepparent or kinship adoptions usually cost up to $2,500.

Using an agency, private or international adoption can cost up to $30,000.

Benefits: You control the search process and the degree of openness with the birthparents, have direct contact with the birthparents, and aren’t restricted by agency requirements.

Risks: Costs are less predictable, as extensive advertising and medical expenses can drive up costs. Length of time to find a birthmother is unpredictable. As with an agency adoption, a birthparent can change her mind.

Here are some good resources with information about adoption: http://Adoption.com, National Adoption Center, National Council for Adoption, American Adoption Congress.

Regardless how the couple decides to adopt, the important fact is that they and their new child will be on their way to a nurturing and loving relationship.

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